The problem is that I already know I spend too much time ranting and raving and I TRY to be a nicer person. But when somebody tells me that it's bothering them to the point where they have to say something, then it makes me feel like I'm not trying hard enough.

The criticism wasn't mean-spirited or nasty and it was well-meant and caring....but it still hurt. I'm sure you know what I mean.

cheers,
Phil