Phil C.

I think that an important thing to remember here is that your friend is most likely not saying these things to hurt you or upset you. They are probably trying to help you. And as hard as it is to do, try to look past the shock and upset of the criticism to see what they actually said. Heck, offering criticism is a sign that they do think that you're a great person, because if you weren't, you wouldn't be worth the effort.