Jan. 16th, 2009

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Time for something completely different. There's a lot of frivolity and cynicism and sarcasm in this journal, but I've got a question that I'd like a serious answer to, hopefully by lots of different people.

What do you do when you feel isolated and withdrawn and lonely?

I moved to Texas to be with [livejournal.com profile] datalopez nearly three months ago. In that time I've rarely been out, except when it was specifically to go visit her or to go research plasma TVs (remind me to put up an entry about my new TV, which I bought in December...but that's not the point now). Austin has a vibrant music scene; I've not been to any concerts yet. Great places to go and eat, yet I've only been to one or two. Tons of cool gatherings to attend. I've not been to a one.

I guess I'm just scared.

I remember what it was like for me when I went to college. I spent the first day huddled in my dorm room, not wanting to go outside and face the scary new world. That evening, I finally got fed up enough that I went downstairs looking for somebody, anybody, to meet and hang out with. I hit the jackpot -- downstairs in the computer room was an amazingly friendly and talkative fellow who shortly became one of my best friends and rapidly introduced me to tons of new people, many of whom I'm still friends with this day.

But living on your own as an adult isn't living in a dorm, where you're forced into social interaction and see hundreds of people every day at close range.

I've never lived anywhere else but Georgia and I left all of my friends and family behind. I don't know anyone at all here in Austin except [livejournal.com profile] datalopez, her sister, and their friend Deedee. I need to get out of the house and do stuff, meet people, see shows, participate, become a part of the kickass scene here that makes Austin one of the neatest places going....but I can't muster the energy to get out and do it. It's easier to stay inside, play the hobbit at home, and refuse to leave my comfy hobbit hole.

So, a question: when YOU need to get out and do stuff, how do you force yourself into it? How do you kick yourself out of the doldrums, or energize yourself into doing new things?

Wherever [livejournal.com profile] datalopez is, is home for me....but I'd like Austin to feel more like home. I'm a misanthrope a lot of the time, but I do like to hang out with people once in a while. Time to start figuring out how to accomplish that.


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